Here is a short video to help the victims understand the behaviors to watch out for

Want to learn more in a fun interactive way?  Go to my website and click on the interactive quiz like games to educate yourself, especially if you think you may be the victim of this egregious gaslighting behavior or narcissistic tendencies!  You'll find it very eye opening if you didn't know about these behaviors prior to this.

        https://youtu.be/bVBdWSPXyRw?si=Kt9WJhkgi_d7h4A7

Now after watching this video, I recognized so many phrases and the main one is "Emotional Abuse" and also recognized that I have been trying to prove that all the narcissistic personalities in my family have been scapegoating me and my aunt for years, many years in my aunt's case, to the point she cannot think clearly at all yet she used to be one of the most creative and resilient people I've ever known.  I just wonder what their explanations would be for her condition? because if  they say drinking I would quickly point out that my mother has been drinking everyday since I was a child and can even remember her giving me a sip of Coors Light for a sore throat, all she is better at is hiding her alcoholism.  Each time I try to encourage my grandmother who also has called my aunt "the problem" instead of a person and cannot empathize at all unless she herself experienced it herself just like recently when she broke her ankle.  Up until then she could not even empathize with my aunt when she broke her foot.  It's nothing short of a miracle that my aunt is still alive today and I cannot even begin to describe how cruel and spiteful it is to keep her ex-husband, who is not blood related, who I'm sure used his status as a police officer in Colorado in one way or another to terrorize her, and my grandmother wasn't even going to take her youngest daughter's side during that divorce when I know that he drank just like she did.  Narcissist's are terrible at detecting when they are being deceived by other narcissistic personalities because all it takes is inflated their already huge ego to get them to believe what ever you want them to, such as flattery before lying to them.  Like for example let's say Tisha said to my dad "I really miss working at the buccaneer, it was really so much better working for you than it is here at pirate's cove." then he would be very receptive to any lie she wanted to tell after that which may have involved talking about me which she herself is a grandiose narcissist raised by a vulnerable narcissist mother Judy who also raised 2 other children all of which have felony records, would you think someone like her has any respect for the law?  especially if she lived with a drunk master electrician for 5 years or more and no skills whatsoever except spreading rumors and gossip?  This is likely why she had to work at Tyson for so many years.  The same could be said about my sister who has no real skills either.  Does anyone think she could do any other job than the one she already does? and has for years yet she has still never totally taken over?  My mother still has to go up there and all she did for her is tell her exactly what to do and where to put numbers when she could still remember how to do accounting.  Now she can't even answer a simple yes or no question about taxes even after someone does all the math for her, and I even asked her in person and all I got was some rambling on about how social security will get theirs regardless, talking about how dad had to pay social security taxes when he didn't pay his self when he was living his dream of owning his own business.  Then when he sold his business (at the worst or least profitable time) he only focuses on himself and his addiction to being right and his extremist beliefs in the bible of which he clearly doesn't understand the book as a whole because for the past 6 years both him and my mother are dead set on trying to predict the end of the world instead of being in any way Christ like by showing other family members empathy, recognizing when they are wrong and being able to admit when they are wrong, not being humble at all, using financial manipulation and the silent treatment for years along with belittling and demeaning the people that are and still are clearly much smarter and have had more jobs and life experiences than they have brain cells left.  My father has no excuse for his horrible memory except that the only things he remembers are things that pertain to his life because he is incapable of listening to anyone else for any longer than 10 minutes without chiming in with his own reply which shows he basically sits there just thinking of a reply the entire time someone else is talking to him, this is why he cannot remember any significant event of any other family member's life period.  Lastly, anyone who has to read a book their entire life and still doesn't understand the book as a whole such as the bible, and not get that being humble, understanding, inclusive and forgiving (which I believe forgiveness should be earned not just given due to the words being meaningless if the person needing the forgiveness doesn't change the behaviors they need forgiveness for) for example if someone kills another person and you forgive them then they go out and kill another person would you believe they are truly sorry if they never stop or are held accountable for their actions?  Nope because if they get away with it once and even twice it becomes a pattern of behaviors that will never stop until they are held accountable and punished accordingly.  This is similar to my analogy of slapping someone and apologizing over and over, does that make their apology mean anything? absolutely NOT, until they stop the slapping and acknowledge the action they did and change their behavior by not slapping the person anymore should they ever be forgiven.