Here's the main question I wonder about....

 In a state full of ordinary narcissistic individuals, even in my own family, where are all the good active listeners at and why do so many women choose to be with such toxic men who don't encourage them to have friends and isolate them as my father did my mother, because any man who isn't jealous or has enough self esteem wouldn't isolate their significant other at all.  I know they can be charming but if they are toxic, I also know that some think that they can fix them in time and it usually just goes the other way and behaviors just get worse instead of better.  If they tear you down instead of build you up, do your research and check their stories and backgrounds with OSINTframework.  All you need to know is their name an the county and town and then you can check part of their background, but also actions speak louder than words, if their words don't match their actions, then they are deceiving you.  A man is only as good as his word these days especially.  I don't make promises unless I plan on keeping them and I do everything within my power to keep every promise and this even applies to being on time and the small things as well.  No one should make their spouse choose except those whose customs are different than ours.  Every global religion has the same 10 core principles and my personal favorite is the golden rule "Treat other's how you wish to be treated" or "Give respect and Get respect", that is the main one I give people the benefit of the doubt, and have been let down so many times but I still have hope but my tolerance for this and my sensitivity to this is very low. If people take advantage of me too much, I simply cut ties or have had to block them in some cases because some of them keep coming back.  I choose who I help and am very picky for one reason or another, because if everyone you thought being honest with, instead of backing you up, used your honesty against you, who would you trust?