"Be careful who you are listening to because you just might be listening to "the problem!" a quote I found and rings very true...

 

How many people have you helped today (without any other motive than to help those who are less able to help themselves)?  A question everyone should ask themselves everyday

I shouldn't have to tell people how many other's I've helped but due to all the narcissism that surrounds me, I know I am the only one who will ever recognize all that I do for other's.  Currently, lies travel seven times faster and a major portion of the population both spread and believe them, without verification, evidence, science, and are in denial.

I've done the most for my family who never call or even care about anyone but themselves, they are the one's who have taken me for granted and held me back from achieving my full potential and it took getting away from their toxic narcissism to see it for what it really was.  The only way to cope is to educate yourself.  You can do this on my website Bit.ly/Dov24 and some of the learning is interactive to teach about biases, fallacies, and narcissistic tendencies.

I've had many good days like today where I accomplished every job I set out to do, but the hardest one was the first since I didn't know exactly what was in store for me, but after a quick assessment I got there around 10am just like I said I would because promises aren't meant to be broken and if you say your going to do something, do it, don't talk about it.  I ended up getting 2 jobs done by about 12:30 p.m. then as soon as I got back I went to check on the tenant I consider my adopted grandmother, due to her good active listening skills and her positive reinforcement, I have made it from the valley of despair and am heading up the mountain of knowledge once again.  

I've also found that the most judgmental people are Christians.  I was raised going to a church of Christ but each of my family members believes differently yet none of them know me at all nor do they care.  They do the absolute least they could possibly do so they can sleep at night, because honestly they've taught me nothing but how not to treat people, and they don't listen to anyone and are mostly narcissistic people, the grandiose and vulnerable type, which are very common these days especially when our president is the biggest one of all, with the biggest ego.  According to social norms in the documentary "(Dis)Honesty" that was on Netflix which was about people cheating on taxes due to seeing other's get away with it and the amount of cheating was universal in each country so this is how I have came to the conclusion that people see all the things he gets away with and assume that they can do the same by exaggerating, lying, and it's a perfect example of the Dunning Kruger effect.  

Anyways after talking to my adopted grandmother for an hour, I waited until 6 pm and helped another tenant with their vehicle.  The odd thing is I have treated each and every person I have ever met the same way, even at that old apartment complex.  I did nice things for them as well until things changed then I just stopped doing those things and that is when they tried to have me charged so many different ways it's ridiculous that the police couldn't see exactly what was going on but since hindsight is 20/20, you would think they would try to make it right somehow but that's probably just my optimistic attitude talking, because so far, very few take the path less chosen or do the right thing as I have so many times and gotten nothing but hate, isolation, bullying, demeaning remarks, toxicity, and I don't miss those people at all, but I am uniquely attuned to detecting quite a bit of these "narcissistic personalities".  I would even go so far as to say I'm somewhat of an empath and can feel some people's emotions even when I can't see them or know them very well at all.  Since I do not ever like to put my nose where it don't belong unlike my sister and judy, I'll keep it to myself unless any of these people ask for my opinion.  We are all entitled to our opinions but I keep mine to myself while I know other people I have came in contact with like spreading their poison or attitudes with not even a second thought.

This and many other instances through out my life and all of the different people I was friends with and my life experiences have lead me to be the best active listener I know, If I ever meet someone that is similar to me, I'd never stop talking about them and telling other's about them but until then there have been a few that are much better than others.  Who knows maybe tomorrow I'll list each name and the type of narcissist they are and why, and the key to all this is the EXPLAINATION, or my ability to explain exactly why I feel the way I do and why, like citing my sources.  I have a very good memory so those of you whom I know, know that I will never forget what you did and didn't do for me when I did a little for some and more for other's than I ever have for myself because if you get no joy out of giving to other's, then to me your a taker not a giver and there are wayyyy to many taker's and too few givers in my opinion.