Religion has caused so many wars and death, all throughout history... and in my opinion my family's Christian belief's are the most judgmental and extreme.

 Here's why to the best of my knowledge....

My parent's didn't raise me or teach me anything, I had to raise myself, learning as I went.  A perfect example of their lack of ability to teach is the fact that my mother couldn't teach my sister to take over the store completely and in the future, when she's "unable to fit anything new" or learn anything new like my dad who can't even remember what he said to the police about the so called "confrontation" is because they are very limited in what they can learn or even remember due to their grandiose narcissism.  They can only remember things that are important to them which is THEMSELVES and their MATERIAL POSSESIONS.  I however am still learning, I still have hope even thou I was raised by a family filled with narcissist's who didn't even notice the obvious symptoms in their own grandchild, my nephew.  Meanwhile,  I have been practicing my own version by leading by example by being tolerant of other's beliefs, by not being judgmental, by helping other's in a meaningful way, and not wanting or putting value on things but value people instead.  It is difficult in this day in age to find positive supportive people but they are out there and this state seems to be filled with narcissistic people as well who, when confronted with being wrong get defensive, angry, or even more toxic because the truth is what they are most afraid of "they are so abundant and ordinary" , they should want to learn how to correct these things, being wrong is not a sign of weakness, it's how people learn that there are better ways than spreading hatred or blaming others for their own short comings.  I have basically told a few people and anyone who reads these blog posts online most of my life story.  In my life, my parents most resemble the pharisee's of the bible thinking they know what's best but had they listened to what I do everyday and what I have told them again and again, yet not a single one can tell me why they believe they think they are right, even my grandmother who has read the bible so many times, cannot be non-judgmental, or listen to what I have to say, not even one single time. and neither did my parents either, all out of some deep seated sort of hatred which I believe is because I would not be like them.  Let's look at this from bible's perspective for a second.  If god so loved the world he gave his only begotten son, what happened to his son?  He was betrayed by the one's he trusted the most and crucified.  Now if you translate that to terms that people understand in this modern day, you might think as I do, and that's basically what my parents did to me by not caring when I was at my most vulnerable, I have been betrayed by them and so many people I thought I could trust.  My parents have taught by their actions what it means that god created man in his own image because they created my sister in their own image, a narcissistic image, and only spew hatred, gossip and rumors then lie about doing so.  I also remember when my sister first got me into trouble when she had a friend search my jeep wagoneer and found my little stash of marijuana.  My father took me into the study and said "DID YOU EVEN THINK OF HOW THIS MIGHT AFFECT US?" (this is an example of my father only worrying about social status)  and now I would say the exact same thing to him.  "Did you ever think of how your narrow minded, narcissistic views of the world, might affect me? and everyone else around you?"  He should say no because he cannot remember anything about anyone's life but his own selfish stories about himself.  The 2 people that have had the most impact on my perspective and survival are my daughter and my youngest aunt.  My daughter is the one, that during the times my mother used the detention center as punishment, that kept me going.  Knowing she would need my help or advice on day.  My aunt gave me perspective on the patterns of behaviors that my family has exhibited even before I was born.  This is why I know my mother and father are incapable of change and don't care about their fellow man because if they care so little about their own family, then how can they possibly have the empathy for anyone.  Now don't get me wrong, they can put on a smile and even fake empathy at times, even tears when needed, but the key is their actions.  You must earn forgiveness from me because if I walked up to one of them and slapped them in the face but said I was sorry, then did it again and again and again, would any rational person think that I was truly sorry?  No.  It's only by actions and words but actions are the most important.  It's not do as I say, not as I do in the bible is it.  It says the opposite, do as I say and not as I do.  To me that would mean that I could literally do the most horrible things but as long as I told you the right thing to do then do it, or don't emulate me which it should be both because so many unknowingly mimic what they see their parents do (just like mom has said "monkey see, monkey do") because they look up to them as role models and it even affects who they choose as partners later on in life.  Even my youngest aunt has known this, people tend to choose people that have similar traits to their own families.  I have listened to, and understood, learned and I don't have to read the bible everyday to know how to treat people with respect, give advice when wanted, understand and be able to put myself in someone else's shoes.  All these things come very easily to me because I listen with the intent to understand and not the intent to reply or impose my views on them.  We should all be free to believe what we want to believe as long as it does no harm to the people around us, when it isolates, and becomes toxic, and lacks empathy or actions to solve the problem then it's time to find someone who knows when to listen and let their loved one vent and when they need a problem solved, by simply asking them, and if your not a problem solver then you just might be the problem yourself.  It's very difficult for other's to see who the problem might be when people are not honest and when you don't have a neutral third part who truly listens to each other's side, and in some cases it might need to be separately without the other knowing this is why isolating someone you say you care is how men have kept control of their wives all throughout time.   Everything between them should be as close to equal as possible.  If one works more than the other then other one should take care of more of the household chores and vice versa, every situation is different.  And from what I have learned is no single global religion is wrong necessarily they all share the same 10 guiding principles but my favorite is the GOLDEN RULE.  Treat other's as you want to be treated as I have done my entire adult life by listening, and as I grew smarter I got better at knowing when a problem needed to be solved and when a person was just venting, but honestly the people who vent should have told me they were just venting because due to my trusting nature I took everything they said an assumed it was true instead of hearing both sides, so basically many people have tried to pull me into their problems, not even wanting them solved or knowing they could solve them their selves the whole time.  I prefer to hear and figure out how to solve problems and really dislike hearing about one's I cannot solve.  The only person I will ever want to  do that for is the person I find to be worth investing my time into, by building them up in any way possible and they should do the same for me.  I even built up the one woman whose grandparents said they thought she was a little off, and since they knew her best they turned out to be right, that particular relationship, my father could have told me the truth, then I would have known that all she was trying to do was get me in trouble for drinking every morning many years ago when she wasn't capable of taking her own kids to school and didn't even have a vehicle to do so, so how grateful do you think she was, and how easily could my father have solved that problem for me?  Very easily just by telling me the truth and being honest (values he said he used to have but looking at it in hindsight, he never valued honesty at all), but he is incapable of doing either one yet as a child he thought I was the liar and he valued honesty when it was just his own perspective and his stories that he valued the most.  He started isolating his wife probably when they first started dating making her choose between her friends and him not knowing that she should be able to have both but due to his insecurities his grandiose self-image and only striving for social status rather than doing good things and helping others, especially his own family, talking badly or preaching to his grandkids while my aunt was there, and using her as an example of infidelity, is the same as what my mother and sister have done to me and my aunt even to our faces but not out in public.  I really don't care if they say they don't remember it because I do remember so many instances of this and I believe my aunt's recollection of events because our brains are wired so that we remember the bad things that happened more readily than all the good times or times we were happy.  We are the most connected society today than ever before and are already upon the tower of babel days when real time translation is happening so how much credibility should I ever give to a book that was written by man, put together by man, they say they were divinely inspired.  Whose to say I'm not divinely inspired?  because if you ask my parents and their conspiracy theory beliefs, they have told me that since "they didn't see the moon landing" or "weren't there, it didn't happen." And they also believe the earth is flat yet that has been disproven for ages and still can be disproven with science that anyone can test in so many ways to find out that it is round.  The saddest thing is that my family has no reason to not be more knowledgeable on these topics but others that believe these things, it's because they were all vulnerable due to the pandemic or other very traumatic things in their lives happening.  What do people do when they don't know the answer to something yet are searching for the truth about what happened or is going on in the world?  Most people were stuck inside during the pandemic and that along with our current "role model" spreading so much misleading information and never being held accountable for all the division in the US at all.  He has had 6 bankruptcies, 4,000 court cases, and now has 34 or 35 felonies as our president he is making the Guinness book of world records in so many categories, yet people think he's smart or authentic?  He's reminds me a lot of Bernie Madoff who made off with so many people's money using a ponsie scheme.  When the people who get the most laws passed no longer represent the best interest of the people they are representing, or the massive amount of corporate money (look up citizens united supreme court case) is put into lobbying, do you think they government is going to do what in the people's best interest or what is in the best interest of the donor's or lobbyist's?  That's kind of rhetorical because we should know by now that if we do not learn from the past we are doomed to repeat it.  Now that our president is trying to defund all of the colleges that don't bend to his will or the republican super-majority in congress, basically they are trying to stop all research and with the conservative supreme court and their anti-abortion laws making it worse than murder in many states, which country do you think we will be more like, even with his trying to bring industries back here that we outsources for a reason.  We will become just like China if these things continue, overpopulated and underpaid and ruled by the 1 % and We the people should do everything within reason even involving our own military to peacefully create a new form of social democracy where every vote counts.  A new friend of mine pointed out something I had never noticed before but knew that those countries were the happiest and tested the best in standardized scores.  He pointed out that they were smaller and I didn't even realize that, that could be applied to ever state being it's own country so each state could have it's own laws and constitution that best fits it's need and less federal government.  We only need unity in our defense but also need to be understanding that so many of bad things that have happened in the past 10 years are not due to anyone from other countries but have been people who have been shunned by their own and looked anywhere for a group that made them feel like they were a part of, some just became radicalized all on their own but the main thing is the lack of their own family and friends recognizing that they needed to belong and always had something unique to offer, I believe they likely didn't take the time to help them or in some cases the real reason like anti-depressants in younger teenagers could have been the reason they did what they did.  The moment you stop asking yourself Why, Who, What, When or Where or simply being curious and searching for the truth is the moment your mind has become closed on a particular topic.  My best advice to anyone who reads this is watch the Ted Talks that I have watched which might take a person one day since I have all of the best one's that have lead me to believe what I do listed on my blog, some are on my other webpage about learning here.  And if anyone has any facts or evidence to prove me wrong I'd love to hear about it but if they are just uneducated opinions then just keep them to yourself.

I'd be more than happy to tell anyone about any of the experiences I've had in life that have lead me to this conclusion, but you'll have to ask first and truly be able to listen, which is why I don't want anything to do with my family and the last thing I told my father in text was to "let me know when he's ready to listen" because he (with my help of course) has already accomplished everything he could possibly accomplish in life and now all he does is talk, talk, talk about his religion and he has strayed so far from what the bible says because he cannot see or read a book and understand it for what it means as a whole, he is just like all the different types of Christianity who chose to focus on only small parts or verses.  So if he could prove me wrong he would because he loves being right more than anything... and doesn't like being told the truth, that's why he gets so defensive when confronted with the truth and also is why he says the truth, closure and justice is unattainable.  I would say " F*** you right to his face because he wasn't there for me and isolated my mother until she finally gave in to his twisted beliefs.