To sum up the last 3 blog posts...

 

Don't wake up and be secretive, bullying, demeaning, belittling or toxic in any way.  You can believe what you want but only you can control your own thoughts and actions.

In the past 2 years I have been met with nothing but lies, hatred, dismissal, demeaning behavior, projection, blame-shifting, and many other narcissistic tendencies from the 4 family's I have a civil complaint against but my family's involvement is due to their lack of empathy, listening skills, conformation bias, use of their social status that they sought their entire lives, and overall self-centered behaviors.  Had they simply had active listening skills they would not be part of my case at all and had my father stood up for me the very first time I ever had to call the police in the most simple way I would have been able to avoid being tortured by so many people in the past 2 years.  Since I also research everything, I also know there is NO statue of limitations on IIED at all due to it's insidious and egregious nature of trying to slowly undermine my reality and substituting their version of events when they themselves we never there but one person did know about the first time I was suicidal, and showed up one time which I saw and my other neighbor saw her then "green suv" pull up one day when the family was bowling but when I asked my sister about it she said simple "I don't know" when I absolutely did know that she did not even knock on my door that day, so I would ask her why she showed up but didn't attempt to contact me at all but I have cut off communication entirely from any person or persons that have been toxic in my life especially family member whom I thought i could trust the most but turned out my honesty and trust is exactly what Kristen used to try and undermine this hatred of me that I'm no longer curious about because there have been 3 seprate occasions where she was nothing but hateful and demeaning towards me without any justification whatsoever, she is more like my father and cannot change her behaviors which have led to me being divided from my daughter, and led to my aunt being divided from her children as well.  I believe her actions were intentional in trying to undermine me because of fear of losing the only job she is capable of doing due to her "inability to absorb any new information" and those are her exact words she said to me once.  What's sad is I'VE NEVER WANTED money or the business and could have achieved all that I wanted to on my own as I have already taught myself so many skills that others are very grateful for, but that too is lacking in my family.  Gratitude for all the things I did for the family that saved them money over the years and I have been called a "jack of all trades" just as my brother-in-laws dad is, I just know newer different trades that he does.  His are more labor intensive but I have always aspired to learning all that I can and have proven how quickly I can adapt even while still being surrounded by narcissistic personalities.  I can work with any person but the amount of respect I got and the lack of empathy from them is what I have a very very low tolerance for due to my sister and family and their actions.

   I have also proven that narcissist's are not good at detecting each other or their intentions especially when one of the parties has the intent of undermining someone that isn't present, this is why so many of the conversations I should have been a part of even within my own family, have been behind closed doors, like when my mother moved me and she also had the family move my aunt, not even caring or thinking about the future at all due to her extremist, apocalyptic beliefs.  My aunt is a perfect example of how not backing up you own family for a long period of time can cause isolation, agoraphobia, and general cognitive decline due to the isolating behaviors of the family she trusted as well.  She has endured more trauma but stretched over a longer period of  time while even the family members that knew a physical altercation had occurred, did nothing (right mom and dad? or are you going to tell me that what I was told didn't happen which would be gaslighting, and would be calling my aunt a liar as well.)  

  This is the reason so many have stopped contacting me in any way or any timely manner but the one's who have continued to stay in touch I know, may have some flaws but are genuine and honest with me which I value more than anything else.  They are also the most helpful people currently in my life and because they help me I am able to help other's with their problems, because I've listened to people vent, no biggie, but I prefer to SOLVE problems not just place BLAME which is why people like myself are very unique this day in age since I have IT skills, Auto detailing skills, Maintenance skills (even preventative maintenance), and am always willing to learn something new, and lastly I cannot stress this enough, go to Ted.com and watch Celeste Headlee's 10 ways to have a better conversation because if you are paying attention, there is no need to learn how to pay attention to when someone is talking to you, and I have also learned almost every person I meet has some very unique ability or skill set that don't have or may never have their exact skill set but everyone is absolutely unique. I have also become a very good detector of the different types narcissistic tendencies that people use to manipulate others into doing what they want them to do, whether it be financial, isolating them, or giving them the silent treatment and spreading rumors or gossip about them, I will never paticipate in any of these horrible behaviors and like I said before have a very low tolerance for these behaviors due to what I have been thru.