How to handle narcissist's in your life

 

Here’s a theory,  If parents raised any children they have, correctly then they leave and go on to have lives of their own, successful lives, then who will be there to take care of them when they reach the age where they need assistance?  Those who have many loving relationships or social connections and are not isolated will live the longest but when a parent or grandparent chooses to only talk to the same people and doesn’t listen to her children’s problems or grandchildren’s, then they will not be there when he or she needs them later on.  If you need to know how to deal with a grandiose narcissist, it’s quite simple.  Just compliment them or inflate their ego before you try to manipulate them, this will make them more receptive to any ideas you have.  It’s similar to treating them like the king or queen, if you compliment or please them then they are much more likely to overlook your flaws or make excuses for you.  The convert/vulnerable narcissist’s are usually the one’s inflating the grandiose ego or using all the narcissistic tendencies to blame, blame-shift, project, minimize, demean, belittle, or outright lie but it will always be when the other person is not there to defend themselves or call them out on the lie or lies.  This is why it’s crucial to always get both sides of any problem before jumping to conclusions. 

Educating yourself about all these tactics can be as easy as doing the interactive games on my website bit.ly/Dov24  or just researching all the narcissistic tendencies on perplexity.ai so you are more aware of when you are being controlled or manipulated.

If any one of the narcissist's in my family could prove me wrong by explanation, facts or evidence they would have already just to rub it in my face.   Instead they have all gone silent so it makes me wonder, what Christian religion condones this behavior?  I'd say it's safe to say "NONE" of them do.  

If you think about it, if I lied instead of trying to get my family to simply back me up, would I be in a different situation?  No because none of them even tried to listen to understand instead they dismissed me just like they have done my aunt.  2 different people, some very similar symptoms but 2 totally different lives and trauma's which lead to Social anxiety and the inability to trust people until we find out they are trustworthy.  When the people who should love you unconditionally can't be trusted, especially over a long period of time, what do you think that would do to a person's self-esteem, or their self-confidence?  The main thing both me and my aunt have is the ability to admit when we are wrong and actually talk things out or discuss each other's perspective without any demeaning, bullying, or even light hearted poking fun at each other, while the latter can be harmless, it can also be toxic.