How many things Joseph and my Dad have in common...

 I had never really analyzed how many things they do have in common but here they are:  They are or were both very active in sports, They both worked in Insurance at one point in time, They both golfed regularly, They also both wait til way after the fact to do the right thing, Neither has spent time in a detention center, both try to give unsolicited advice on things they know nothing about, and lastly but worst of all, have over a period of time invalidated the significant other's in their lives to make them conform to their own beliefs.  Oh, I forgot they both have gambled, my dad was on horses at the track.  There is one major difference in all the people that I believe have wronged me is they at least have one or more people to support them while I have no one because of my father's invalidation or lack of standing up for anyone in the family but himself while I have put in 25 years working, helping him achieve his dream only for him to sell it.  They also both like to pontificate or like to hear themselves talk and their senses of self worth are strongly tied to their ego's and lack humility.  I at least know why Joseph's significant other backed him up.. bc she is attached to his kids and his supportive mother, that I totally understand.  Dang, I forgot both my dad and his brother both got into landscaping after retiring from their jobs but they have one thing Joesph doesn't which is a long enough attention span to complete a task before moving on to a new one or simply focuses on the superficial things rather than an entire property and lack the ability to show gratitude.  So when Joe cam back into my life WHO WAS IT that needed help?  And I helped him, listened to my aunt and all her trauma's my grandmother tuned out all WHILE GOING thru hell,  I bet you not a single person could endure what I endured for simply being the gullible honest person I am for even a week....