I just realized what it is... they know that given a period of time I can beat them at anything

 I could beat my dad a golf if that were a goal of mine, I could run faster if that were a goal of mine, I could literally do anything he could do but he can't do what I can do, none of them can, which is care about other people and show other's empathy, every single one of them in absolutely incapable of that towards anyone but themselves.  As granny would put it they are all great at throwing their own pity parties but I won't join their misery.  I know their miserable because they have gotten everything they've ever wanted and the only thing that brings a smile to their face is torturing their own family.  Prove me wrong.... either way they are the worst people I've ever had to be around, ever.