The Truth is what and why so many show no empathy... I can remember quite a bit

 

Like for example whose parents pushed me and my exwife to get married? Her's and she has also never let go of one single incident when she would never even ask for help or allow anyone to help her with our daughter.  I can remember how hysterical she was over a couch her brother gave us and her mother was right there telling her it was just hormones.  Her brother did and does have ADHD and I remember her telling me a story about her being hit by a baseball bat by him yet she, like everyone else saw an opportunity to leave what her parents had push on me and blamed me, she might ask herself what experience did she have right before she left and I never saw her again?  I bet she doesn't remember that but I do.  I also remember what we did every night at spring lake apartments when she lived with her roommate michelle and even how we used MSN messenger and how she showed up with her at my parents house when I was taking a bath upstairs.  One of her friends introduced me to the Vodka I drank for many years and we also smoked pot, similarly to what my mother, daughter, sister are doing now to so they don't have to remember all the shit they have put me thru all of the years.  I still remember the night I was at work making pizza and got a call from my ex-wife before the divorce, I turned white and told dad I had to leave and cried all the way to where we lived right by Mcbs but before I got there, I had to tell myself to get it together so I could calm my wife down because my daughter stopped breathing for just a short period of time.  We had a tan 4 door toyota camry which was 200$ per month and she had to take my daughter for frequent car rides just to soothe her.  I remember my ex roommate dropping me off after getting me really high on pot when he drove a light blue older style 4 door car.  We had a dog named zoey but since we were upstair she rarely made it outside to pee so I had to clean the carpets quite often.  Now I also remember what that little cricket's song was it sang "loving you is more than just a dream come true, do to do do do" and I wonder if she remembers that as well.  And the song she sang at our wedding "When you say nothing at all" was a good performance as well then we spent our honeymoon in branson, MO.  My mother bought my valentines's day gift when I asked her to "Bee Mine" and that was when we were together before we got married.

The reason I know she's been holding onto some sort of grudge was by how quickly she responded to me when my daughter told me about what she could vividly remember at 3 years old, and because I took pain pills then it was foggy but after a little time thinking, I told her I remembered, and admitted it was wrong, now I wonder does she have anything she'd like to admit? I missed a lot of time with my daughter and now my mother and sister have even turned her against me.  So many people I never talked badly about had been talking badly behind my back and I had no idea.

My mother, instead of consoling me after a breakup after my divorce instead used the police to put me in Jail on a FTA for 21 days. She showed no empathy then, and is even worse now.  Now my mother and sister are so petty and have always talked badly about so many people even their own family.  I know Kristen told me Danielle got fat as if I cared but she also talked badly about mathew being to rough with her sons when she is not the victim because she knows she was taking opiates during her pregnancy with her youngest son and when her and her husband were having problems who was the supportive parent to her yet couldn't even show her own son empathy at all when this is the only thing dad is right about, I'm just like her just twice as smart and not delusional like she is. She chose to drink for 40 years just like her father and instead of being physically abusive she has been emotionally abusive for 10-15 years, not being a mother at all.  Thats why she is just like granny and dad and everyone else that will deny it to the very end this is why I have had to bring a civil case against them because of lack of support.  Why would the oldest sister make fun of and even abuse her younger sister and her mother, my grandmother did nothing but call her a "problem" when they are in fact THE problem all along.  The truth hurts but they are all so materialistic and self-centered, lack empathy for anyone other than themselves and I know that is why they could care less when I needed them they were not there and I could have committed suicide so many times or have been suicidal due to their abuse and not a single one of them calls or talks to me at all so if they say they know me ... they don't know me at all.  The rumors and gossip stop here.  Misinformation, rumors and gossip and busybodies they are just the same and the "country bumpkin" and Kristen and Judy are the ones who play the vicitims and have gaslight me.  My sister has for longer but at a much more deceptive pace just like my father has done to my mother, isolating her in the very beginning making her choose between him or her friends when no man who is self confident would ever make their wife choose. If they were men they wouldn't be jealous or worried about if their wife had friends and this is how most men keep control of their wives by keeping them isolated rather than letting them have friends with perspectives who might just let them know how badly they are being controlled or manipulated.  This is how they keep control of them when it should never be that way at all if they are secure about how they treat them in the first place.  I have a much better idea about all this but you or anyone will have to ask me in person what I think is the better way.....