Here's some insight I have that very few others do..

Tips and Life Hacks to save anyone sometime and some mental shortcuts that have proven true time and time again.

Since I realize there are narcissist's everywhere that resemble my own family, I can see right thru the one's I have talked to.  They are very common and there can never be an accurate count because of their dishonesty with themselves and the people they say they care about.

Anyone who points fingers or blames others, this usually means there are 3 fingers pointing right back at them, because blaming solves nothing.....

Everyone does lie to an extent but some lies are called white lies in order to build up or at the very least not tear down someone.  The fact that everyone lies is due to perspectives and some do lie unintentionally but other's lie, exaggerate, to deceive or get ahead when they have no real skills or expertise.  

I have also found that driving and while taking a shower I am able to think the clearest and many of my best idea's come to me while driving and my clearest thoughts about what I would like to say are when i'm in the shower/bath.  

So many people will never hear their own subconscious thoughts like I do but this is a product of the torture and isolation the common narcissist's I used to live by and the lack of support from my narcissistic family.  

The main thing these common narcissist's lack is the ability to put themselves in anyone else's shoes, and not just hear words but actually understand when someone tells you about something and is able to relate because of their own life experiences.  I've been raised by a community rather than my toxic family and after that I had to learn everything I know all by myself or by testing and checking and also researching which includes computers so I have a very unique perspective.

Every could have something unique about them but when people you care about tear you down rather than build you up, that is what I have dealt with my whole life from my family and their assumptions because they have never listened to me with the exception of a few years  when I was 14 they finally started to believe me for a short period of time, this is why being honest has done me no good, but which world would you choose to live in, a world of honest caring people or a world of lies and deceit?  

Some of this can be attributed to the current biggest ego and narcissist in the US and all the misinformation he has spread, only a few of the conspiracies has he started but do you ever hear of Alex Jones from infowars anymore? Nope because he was the sandy hook denier whose followers attacked online all the parents who survived the sandy hook incident which was a school shooting I believe.  He had to pay out 1.5 billion dollars, tried to say he was just a persona on his show and acted like a child in front of the judge.  

I'll finish this later ....  sorry, I had to go help some other's now where was I...

Lifehacks or mental shortcuts but before I get into those,  if 4 family's refuse to participate in civil procedure or simply prove with a simple exchange of information what would that lead someone to believe? even if they are narcissistic people, like my family is, how can they be so self involved that they can't see the harm they are causing?  I mean I really don't care I've proven everything I've set out to prove, so I'm done.

Anchoring, if you want a certain item and you want your husband, wife, or anyone that might help you buy it not be overwhelmed at the price, first show them the more expensive version of what you want then show them the actual one you want and it wont seem so pricey or basically it will seem more reasonable.

Then the Baider Meinhoff Illusion, it's best explained when you get a new car and suddenly you notice them everywhere, they were always there, you just didn't notice them as much until you have one yourself.

If you ever get pulled over, if you can somehow get the officer to laugh you are a lot more likely to just get a warning because you have to see if from their perspective, every stop could be a very serious situation I would teach my daughter to do just like I do and turn on any interior lights if at night and keep your hands on the steering wheel to make sure the officer is at ease, because I have watched documentary about how in some cities, this is what african american communities have to teach their kids plus much more just to make sure something doesn't happen like the man that was knelt on by an officer on his neck for over 5 minutes, that is absolutely uncessary and people started protesting in cities all across the nation, and since police have unions those officers probably got off light or just got moved to another ciry or town.  Yet walmart and amazon workers are severely discouraged from unionizing by anti-union propaganda at their jobs and I seem to remember one person trying to start a movement but amazon quashed that so quick yet all these big monopolies are being fined over and over in other countries like the EU but here they are allowed to flourish and the last one to be broken up was in 1984 and it was AT&T.

If you have a candle but can't get a lighter to reach, light a piece of long spagetti, it burns just enough to light the candle.

When shampooing carpets, vacuum afterwards because shampooing loosen's up the dirt, and always clean your vacuum's mesh air filter and if you routinely make sure it's cleaned it will last you many years,  the main part that fails are the plastic wheels on the cheap vacuums. 

Also always let any part of your vacuum you get wet thoroughly dry before using it again or the dirt will stick even worse than before.

If you never want to have to buy but one air filter for your vehicle get a K&N air filter,  They work for 100,000 miles and even after that you can wash them out and recharge them with the oil that they come infused with.  This is what cold air intakes use and it's better for your engine, just like premium gasoline is, it's like using the cheap stuff but with octane boost and other additives that increase fuel mileage.  Using the cheapest gas all the time leads to engine knocking over time.

If you choose synthetic motor oil when you get it changed there's no need to worry about changing as often as 3,000 miles it's more like 5,000-10,000 miles but I would base it off of how dark it gets and if there's no leak or it doesn't use oil then just keep an eye on it.  Synthetic motor oils are made to withstand breaking down for a long time.

Also never wash your vehicle after a long trip when you've had to use the brake a lot, why?  because your rotors which are what your brakes clamp onto are very hot after a lot of use and cooling them off quickly causes them to warp.

Ever heard of sweedish paper towels?  I hadn't until someone told me about them, they are reusable and washable kind of like a car shammy and do come in handy.  check amazon, one of my favorite customer's whom i help remotely now, recommended them to me.

Older vehicles are cheaper to fix due to having less computers in them and if your ever sure, I mean, sure about which part you need for your vehicle, then it's much cheaper to buy from partsgeek.com and have a place like arkansas tire and auto put on the part for you.  I saved 300$ doing this with my front struts

Also AAA for roadside assistance is worth it's weight in gold because one tow costs anywhere from 80-150$ so check the website and see if 65$ or if you get a coupon for the 35$ anual plan for 2 people I'd highly recommend it because mine has already paid for itself in just the discounts I receive at Arkansas Tire and auto.

NEVER use a debit card online, always use a Credit card and if you can or if it has the virtual card feature in the app use those and keep an eye on what is charged because credit card charges can always be disputed, virtual cards can be set as only one transaction or a limited amount and are the cheapest easiest way to protect yourself when buying online.

Always look at the fee's associated with any prepaid card because some have a fee for using it, a fee for every transaction and even fee's if it goes unused for a length of time.  Green dot used to be a good one but that has changed, I think MyVanilla is currently the best with the lowest fee's but I haven't checked the fine print lately, you could probably ask perplexity.ai which one has the fewest fee's.

Chime and CashApp are both good for different reasons.  Chime allows users like me who have had direct deposits to it, cash checks up to 20,000$ per check and 50,000$ per month, those are the limits for me but I'm also allowed 2 checks per day that get instantly deposited so the funds become available within minutes and no 3% Fee like at wal-mart.  

Bitcoin is the cheapest way to send money anywhere in or outside the country since it's transaction fees are currently about 1.50$ per transaction whereas Western Union charges 10% on every 100$ sent.

We have been going digital since debit and credit cards were invented and used but so many don't even try to understand the great uses for bitcoin, and now that the lightning network has been implemented which when I was mining it, it was only an idea that was next, it's like micro transactions that get uploaded to the blockchain later so it can increase the speed of the transactions.  Multi-sig transactions are a trustless way to use bitcoin to buy things because it's like an escrow service basically the bitcoin is held until both parties digitally sign off on it, so if you get a product and your not satisfied you can send it back and not sign the transaction, it's somewhat similar to ebay's 100% money back guarantee. 

 Paypal which used to be a big part of ebay is basically just an extra layer of protection on any online purchase.

That's all for now but I'm sure more will come to mind later on...