The Answer

 

If someone can't admit when they are wrong, they are no longer capable of any meaningful change because no one is right all of the time and no one knows everything, these are just fallacies of the brain like the Halo Effect where you take one attribute and use that attribute to overshadow all the other attributes or personality traits.  Conformation Bias is where (if someone is even searching for answers) people only look for information that backs up what they already believe instead of doing the opposite which would be similar to playing the devil's advocate and trying to poke holes in your beliefs or theories.  If you couldn't find any factual information that disproves your bias or theory then you can reasonably assume you have a strong theory or justification but if you lack the main thing needed for learning new things, CURIOUSITY, then you are no longer able to learn new things and likely believe you know it all or are just fine in your beliefs instead of challenging them.  Everyone has some bias, whether they admit it or not, but those of us that are aware of it and stay open-minded to information that may prove our beliefs wrong, are the most valuable people.  This is because people like this are the "PROBLEM SOLVERS" not the "CREATORS" or even those that just place "BLAME". Solving problems effectively usually requires understanding multiple perspectives, not just one side of an issue. When you only see or hear one side, your information is limited and potentially biased, which can lead to incomplete or flawed solutions. Considering diverse viewpoints helps identify root causes, anticipate challenges, and create more balanced, sustainable outcomes.

So, while it might be possible to solve some problems with only one-sided information—especially simple or technical problems—more complex issues benefit greatly from engaging with multiple sides to achieve better and more informed solutions.

 In order to solve a problem, you first have to be able to put your own opinions or biases aside and look at a problem from a different perspective other than your own, this is a quality that is over-looked so often because the are so few great or even good active listener's who practice showing empathy, validating, and understanding without the intent to reply.  This is why the most important Ted Talk by Celeste Headlee about 10 ways to have a better conversation is crucial for those who actually want to learn how to become better listeners.

Since there is no magic cure for narcissist's this is a true example of how hard it would be to get them to admit they need therapy...

·         Suggesting therapy to a narcissist is like trying to teach a unicorn about humility—they’re convinced they set the standard for magical creatures.

Getting a narcissist to admit they need therapy is like persuading a rooster to stop crowing at sunrise—good luck silencing that ego

·         Asking a narcissist to see a therapist is like inviting a hurricane to a meditation retreat—you’ll get a lot of noise and zero calm.

·         Getting a narcissist to therapy is like trying to teach a peacock to be humble—it’s all feathers and no shame.

·         Asking a narcissist to see a therapist is like handing a mirror to a statue—they’ll just admire their own reflection and refuse to move.

·         Trying to get a narcissist to therapy is like offering a goldfish a map—it still thinks it rules the whole ocean.

·         Asking a narcissist to attend therapy is like giving a cat a bath—both require consent that’s never coming.

 

1.    What did the narcissist say after the first therapy session? “I think I cured you!”

1.    Why did the narcissist take notes in therapy? So they could remind the therapist who the real expert is.  (So mom what uses a Static IP again?  Amazon tablets and etc?)  This was her answer when I told her there were 2 extra static IP's on her starlink network and she had to buy a static IP to be able to remotely view her cameras at the store.  Whose the expert on computers and networking MOM?

1.    What did the narcissist ask when therapy started? “Will there be a Q&A—about me?”

1.    How many narcissists does it take to change a lightbulb? Just one—they’ll call it “enlightenment” and assume the therapist wants to hear all about it.   (How enlightened are you now Dad)

1.    What do you call a narcissist in group therapy? The keynote speaker. 

Convincing a narcissist they need therapy is like teaching a dictionary how to spell—they’ll just insist they wrote the words in the first place.

 

Asking a narcissist to see a therapist is like inviting a cat to a group obedience class—good luck getting them through the door, let alone paying attention!

 

Suggesting therapy to a narcissist is like offering swimming lessons to a fish—it’s cute you think they need help, but they’re pretty sure they invented the water.

 

·         Trying to get a narcissist to go to therapy is like giving a GPS to someone who thinks they’re always right—don’t be surprised if they end up “recalculating” in denial.

 (Who did I have to give directions to saint vincent's when I was busy mowing a lawn for someone else?  You know who are)

Trying to get a narcissist to go to therapy is like inviting a peacock to a humility workshop—they’ll just strut in and ask for a mirror!