My Aunt was sexually harassed, intimidated, and forced out of her job and her support like her mother told her to just keep quiet about it. This aunt was the youngest, smallest and actually tied to get in the middle of the physical altercations between her father and mother while her older sisters cowered in the corner watching in horror as even their sister got beaten but at least she tried to stop the beating. Later on when she was married for the first time, her sister and her husband, which is my mother and father and my father saw that there had been a “scuffle” so he knew that there had been a physical altercation occurred yet neither one of my aunts family member’s stood up for her at all, so even back then my mother obviously condoned physical violence while also suffering from only watching her mother get beaten. My aunt’s mother only stood up for her during her first divorce which she had went into blind and this man had so many debts. My aunt even remembers calling this man’s mother and told her that he was her problem and she replied “well gee thanks”. My aunt’s mother was willing to pay to have the abuse stop and my aunt said “no it’s my problem, and he should have to pay” so even back then my aunt was the braver one but this one instance is a rare glimpse into how a family dynamic actually should work and how a family should protect their loved ones from harm.

When my aunt was younger she can remember an instance where my grandfather bashed her head against an old stove which would be made out of much more solid materials than the one’s made these days, over and over and over, until her head was bleeding all over her and her mother tried to help her but was scared to due to not wanting to get hit herself. I can understand both women’s sides in this but if it was me I would protect my child above all else. She also told me she has scars on her head to this very day but you would likely have to shave her head to see these scars. What I keep wondering is what in the heck is wrong with a family that has seen such abuse and lived thru such abuse and yet they let it happen again and again and again to her and now have become the abuser’s themselves and they somehow think they are right or that I’m ever going to doing things their way or respect them ever again? Why should I is what I would say to them… Why should I respect the family that didn’t stand up for their sister when she has been thru so much physical pain and abuse and Granny thinks she is somehow throwing a pity party? More like granny is in denial about how wrong and how little she has stood up for her youngest daughter for her entire life. While she also lets my mother, father, sister and brother in law, the oldest physical altercation was on a trip to florida and I remember the night before when me and my sister took the kids to the arcade and she griped and complained about her husband and I just comforted her and listened, it wasn’t long after that me and my daughter went parasailing and that night I was asleep and my nephews kept just picking at me and all I did was yell and go back to sleep then when I woke up and my sister was talking down to my daughter calling her lazy I got right up in her face with my hands to my side and my sister yells “Kevin” who comes in with his arms extended and proceeds to try and I guess choke me to death? Unfortunately even thou he was twice my weight he could barely reach my neck and still wasn’t strong enough to choke me even thou he put all his weight into his attack on me, all the while my sister just watches and I assume enjoys watching me suffer and my daughter was a witness to this atrocity as well. After I finally get Kevin off of me or my father steps in and has to wrestle with me to push me out the door. Ok now here is the first problem, what happens to a person when they are choked or otherwise attacked? Do you think it makes them calm down or causes them to get even more agitated as I have before with my sister’s first boyfriend when she was 16 and he choked me after I slapped her, rightfully so because the McGuires who were at the little pool party said I was totally justified in slapping her because she only came down there to literally talk down and be nasty towards me, why? I’ll never know. So now knowing this is the second time I’ve been assaulted by a signifigant other of my sister, I still received no apology and the ENTIRE way back when I just wanted to talk about it and be heard my mother literally yells at me and tell’s me to shut up right in front of my daughter and I have to bottle up all this anger and rage so she shouldn’t be surprised when It does manifest as me holding her and my father accountable for ALL THE TIMES THEY SHOULD HAVE STOOD UP FOR ME AND my aunt and FAILED miserably. How can they possibly think they are godly when my dad’s religious extremism is souly a journey of his selfishness for his own soul which is the most pathetic form of greed because it is a worthless journey and he will be judged by a judge in this lifetime for his lack of standing up for anyone but his self his entire life as far as I know and causing my mother to literally get so tired of him not standing up for her that she just gives in and literally joins his stupid conspiracy theory beliefs of which none he can back up with any evidence whatsoever and he can’t even explain them either. I only wonder when these family members reach the valley of knowing nothing which is where they are about to fall to due to their own arrogance. I know why I can’t get them to listen or learn, it is because they THINK they know it all but are such simpleton’s and cannot realize they know nothing at all and have stood up for, took groceries to, lied for the criminals, liars, and thieves that used to work for them or the daughter that never even needed their support (Mom that is).

Key Signs That Someone Has Been Traumatized

Recognizing trauma in someone can be challenging, as symptoms vary and may not always be obvious. However, there are several common emotional, behavioral, cognitive, and physical signs that may indicate a person has been traumatized.

Emotional and Psychological Signs

Persistent anxiety, panic attacks, or fear
Irritability, anger, or frequent mood swings
Emotional numbness or detachment from others
Feelings of guilt, shame, helplessness, or hopelessness
Depression and loss of interest in activities once enjoyed3 5 7 8

Cognitive Symptoms

Intrusive thoughts, flashbacks, or nightmares about the traumatic event
Difficulty concentrating or confusion
Memory problems, especially related to the traumatic event3 6 7 8

Behavioral Changes

Avoidance of people, places, or activities that are reminders of the trauma
Withdrawal from friends, family, or social activities
Loss of interest in hobbies or work
Increased use of substances (alcohol or drugs) to cope3 4 5 7 8

Physical Symptoms

Sleep disturbances (difficulty falling or staying asleep, nightmares)
Fatigue or constant tiredness, even after rest
Headaches, muscle tension, or unexplained aches and pains
Changes in appetite or digestive problems
Feeling easily startled or hypervigilant (always “on edge”)5 6 8

How Trauma Manifests

Trauma can affect the brain’s ability to process emotions and memories, leading to a prolonged “fight or flight” response and a range of symptoms that impact daily functioning3. These symptoms may appear immediately after the event or be delayed by weeks, months, or even years8.

When to Seek Help

It is normal to experience distress after a traumatic event, but if symptoms persist for more than a few weeks or interfere with daily life, it may indicate a trauma-related disorder such as PTSD. Professional evaluation and support are recommended if:

Symptoms are severe or worsening over time
There is significant disruption in work, relationships, or self-care
There are thoughts of self-harm or destructive behaviors8

Summary Table: Common Signs of Trauma

Category	Examples of Symptoms
Emotional	Anxiety, irritability, numbness, guilt, depression
Cognitive	Intrusive memories, flashbacks, nightmares, confusion
Behavioral	Avoidance, withdrawal, loss of interest, substance use
Physical	Sleep problems, fatigue, headaches, aches, hypervigilance

If you suspect someone has been traumatized, encourage them to seek professional support, as recovery is possible with appropriate treatment3 8. Or You could learn to become better listeners or show the traumatized person SUPPORT instead of the opposite like ignoring them causing them even more distress.

Citations:

1. https://www.ptsd.va.gov/understand/isitptsd/common_reactions.asp

2. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20355967

3. https://www.lakebehavioralhospital.com/recognizing-the-signs-and-symptoms-of-emotional-psychological-trauma/

4. https://nyulangone.org/news/understanding-difference-between-difficult-moment-trauma

5. https://ccp.net.au/how-do-i-know-if-ive-been-affected-by-trauma/

6. https://www.griefrecoveryhouston.com/top-8-signs-of-trauma/

7. https://fortbehavioral.com/addiction-recovery-blog/signs-of-emotional-trauma-in-adults/

8. https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/symptoms/

Answer from Perplexity: pplx.ai/share

I had never really analyzed how many things they do have in common but here they are: They are or were both very active in sports, They both worked in Insurance at one point in time, They both golfed regularly, They also both wait til way after the fact to do the right thing, Neither has spent time in a detention center, both try to give unsolicited advice on things they know nothing about, and lastly but worst of all, have over a period of time invalidated the significant other's in their lives to make them conform to their own beliefs. Oh, I forgot they both have gambled, my dad was on horses at the track. There is one major difference in all the people that I believe have wronged me is they at least have one or more people to support them while I have no one because of my father's invalidation or lack of standing up for anyone in the family but himself while I have put in 25 years working, helping him achieve his dream only for him to sell it. They also both like to pontificate or like to hear themselves talk and their senses of self worth are strongly tied to their ego's and lack humility. I at least know why Joseph's significant other backed him up.. bc she is attached to his kids and his supportive mother, that I totally understand. Dang, I forgot both my dad and his brother both got into landscaping after retiring from their jobs but they have one thing Joesph doesn't which is a long enough attention span to complete a task before moving on to a new one or simply focuses on the superficial things rather than an entire property and lack the ability to show gratitude. So when Joe cam back into my life WHO WAS IT that needed help? And I helped him, listened to my aunt and all her trauma's my grandmother tuned out all WHILE GOING thru hell, I bet you not a single person could endure what I endured for simply being the gullible honest person I am for even a week....

This may be the saddest story ever told but the Truth needs to come out. I know due to the stories I’ve been told that my father made my mother choose between him and her friends which no secure man would ever do, he never backed her up when he got home from working at the Nuclear Plant which over time has caused her to give up any resistance to his religious views and I even remember hearing him talk to his father even 6 months prior to my grandfather on his side passing away, which proves that he is incapable of listening to anyone. Another similarity I find odd is that all throughout my life he was only interested in coaching me in sports rather than helping me with my self-confidence in my passion and the only way he ever encouraged good grades was the simplest, easiest way possible which was with money instead of taking any sort of interest in what I am not an expert in. I now realize that my family doesn’t know what unconditional love is because anyone who charges their sister rent when she isn’t working due to a disability yet while she worked for the family didn’t charge her rent, isn’t showing their sister love, they are causing her more stress over money. Another thing I find odd is reading the same book over and over again, can you imagine studying the same Math book or English book your entire lifetime? Most teachers just use a book for one semester or year and most student’s absorb the information just fine. That may be why my family studies the same book yet still hasn’t learned the basic principles of empathy, humility, and the saying about how hard it is for the rich man to get into heaven because anyone who loves money or things more than their connections to people will reap what they sow in the long run.

Now imagine my mother never having anyone back her up even when it came to spanking me or my sister time and time again while her mother never backed her up, this is why she gave up trying to ever stand up for anyone and finally just gave in to whatever dad believes because as she has said “granny just sticks her head in the sand” and I’ve seen it done to both me and my aunt. While my grandmother has had all the time in the world to listen to my aunt she has chosen to tune her out just as she chose to tune me out and turns a blind eye to the suffering that my father, mother, and sister have caused both me, my aunt and even my daughter.

Even my sister knows that she can’t take any of her concerns to my father because he likes “talking at people” not to them meaning he doesn’t listen with the intent to understand but only with the intent to reply but he cannot explain why he puts so much faith in a god he cannot see and no faith in his son which he knows is much smarter than him in so many ways.

These things that he gave me advice about was: Vehicles ex. Being my daughters ex’s truck which I proved him wrong and that vehicle just needed to be driven, He’s tried to give me advice of how to act in front of a Judge and how many judge’s has he stood in front of throughout the years? 0. And if I were to use their(mostly dad’s) flawed logic I’d say “well I didn’t see you get robbed at mcb’s at gunpoint many years ago so therefore it didn’t happen, just like you graduating from college, I wasn’t there so therefore that didn’t happen just like their logic in not seeing the moon landing happen which is a conspiracy started by one man in the late 70’s early 80’s which only became mainstream after the covid pandemic. If you use the reasonable logic that if it was staged it would be an easy secret to keep but since it wasn’t and it took literally 400,000 scientists to get us to the moon, you are basically saying that they don’t exist while I know science and due to the shows that I watch I’ve learned so many things that can be proven true and I always double check even the things I’ve learned from them or anything anyone tells me before I believe it. Just like I just recently learned Petit Jean hot dogs are removing the synthetic dyes from their hot dogs in 2025 due to someone telling me about it, then I confirmed it with one simple search using perplexity. This is why I say search for the things you want to know about whether it be politics, news, even local news, or laws being passed and don’t let the media lead you with click bait headlines that are also biased because advertiser’s are what drive their profits now. Youtube has sooo much misinformation I never let it suggest anything to me, I merely use it as a tool to learn how to do certain things and even have to be picky as to which one I feel is most trustworthy due to how easily footage can be edited out for how long it takes to do something but good information or things for visual learners can be found on there but this is the most I would ever use it for.

I’ve worked for my family for 27 years so mainly the people my father has chosen to work for him were the people I, at one time or another, thought were friends or could be trusted turned out to be the very people who were dishonest, and never showed their true selves around him but when I was the only one around, people acted like themselves and I know how these people truly are because they trusted me because of how easy it is to talk to me and unlike them, I listen. Just like the old saying while the cat’s away the mice will play, these employee’s showed their true selves to me while acting like they cared and did the job they were supposed to only while he was around. The same goes for McB’s but the reason no one takes advantage of my sister is because of the one parent who actually backs her up and this is the only reason they don’t. Yet they ask them their opinions and think they are getting a true honest opinion but if your job depended on whether you agreed or disagreed with the management, you would always just agree with management instead of ever giving their own honest opinions which has created their own echo chamber’s for their own biased belief’s. I challenge anyone to prove me wrong about any of my family’s belief’s because if there’s one thing I do know, it’s my family. What is truly sad about it all is they have chosen to isolate and/or exile me and my aunt for so many years yet that’s one reason I can’t stand in the same place for very long at all without my leg bothering me is due to 27 years of standing in the same spot taking care of customer’s while most of their lives they have said nothing but negative things about their own family, and never stood up for them at all, so it’s their misery that they want company in not vice versa.

So in summary my father and grandmother (who actually has a reason for her dismissiveness due to the physical violence she endured yet never even stood up for her youngest daughter when she needed backing up, nor did her oldest sister even stand up for her when she and my dad went to eat dinner at her and one of her boyfriend’s or husband’s houses and dad said “looks like there was a scuffle here” just goes to show how even thou my mother went thru the same she wouldn’t even stand up for her sister way back then) are the reason’s why people kept trying to take advantage of the most honest and was the most gullible people they knew because people knew that no one in the family stood up for each other except for me standing up for my aunt. They have also time and time again stood up for the opposite side not even knowing what she or I have went thru because they were never there and only ASSUME things they do not know nor have they ever even listened to. The usual response we have gotten is being tuned out or in mom’s case, eye rolls, saying whatever when she couldn’t explain her side and making fun of and blaming us for the same things they were doing behind closed doors.

If I had chosen to work at any other company for 27 years instead of helping my family with their businesses then......

- I would have a management position

- I would have gotten regular raises instead of being barely above minimum wage the entire time.

- I'd have retirement benefits

- I would have money saved up and be able to invest how I see firt

- My expertise in the many fields would have more weight

- I would be totally independent instead of dependent on them as they have done this on purpose. Every action they have taken is only to make me, my aunt, and my daughter more dependent on them rather than independent.

So in summary they as in the family has literally made me depend on them due to their lack of support and when I say support I DONT MEAN MONEY, they have no empathy for any other human begin whatsoever, and I honestly don't know what kind of religion they practice because it is nothing like what the bible teaches at all. So take what they say with a grain of salt because I have done all the research and can explain why on any topic I know about and why this family is the way that they are.

My Best Qualities

aka David Lopez on Facebook, and Dloper on Pandora, Spotify or IHeart Radio, also the creator of the www.bit.ly/Dov24 website as well as a few other's www.bit.ly/Truth43, www.bit.ly/DLOpaint (Capitalization of the website names is essential)

In a Work Setting or a Relationship

Relationship Qualities: I'm loyal, honest, forgiving, patient, passionate, I prefer giving rather than receiving, I never give up on someone, I will always stand up for others, I'm optimistic, I only like to build people up rather than tear them down, I'm humble, and a life-long learner or enjoy learning new things, I solve problems rather than create them, I never say anything I don't truly mean and when I make a promise, I keep it. I prefer to go by the "Golden Rule" and treat other's as I would like to be treated, and to me actions speak louder than words. I'm not perfect nor would I ever expect a significant other to be. The best quality I have is I am a great active listener and can empathize, validate, listen with the intent to understand and not just to reply and I also have life experiences that have shaped how I treat others.

Work qualities: I am an expert in PC's, building, repairing, and troubleshooting and am A+, Network +, Security +, and Server + CompTIA certified, I'm a team player, I know how to communicate it just seems like no one wants to listen to my good ideas I would gladly tell them when asked, I have many other skills such as: Auto Detailing, Carpet Shampooing, Small Appliance Repair, and love solving problems. I am also persistent when it comes to problem solving and may solve a different problem at times but I always return to the original problem until it is solved. I'm good at getting both sides of an issue before forming an opinion about a problem or topic and am able to put myself in other's shoes so I get the full picture or the entire perspective before giving advice or suggestions.

First, I supported Taylor for 2 and 1/2 years when she was not with her husband (or at least that's what she lead me to believe but who can trust someone who would lie to their kids about him for months while they were stuck in Tennessee), My family gave her and her kids xmas cards for 2 years and it was more money than they had ever gotten from even their own family, I also had bought 3 xbox's for her kids right before she left, helped pay her bills during that 2 year period, and it seemed like she thinks she's better than me, I tried to talk to her about a relationship the whole time and instead I just was used.

Second, My family gave LaTisha a Chevy Malibu that belonged to al which I checked the oil frequently, fixed the a/c myself, and even am owed a core charge for a starter, and 4 brand new tires which I did even before she sexually harassed me and sent me that lude photo.

Prior to that I picked up her mother's Narcissistic Alcoholic Master Electrician boyfriend in Kansas City, MS when I had no desire to do so and he even paid me less than what it would have cost him to get back by taxi, I got permission for, put up, but never gave Tisha's mom a fence and charged her nothing except for the 30$ worth of plain fencing on the back corner, I washed or detailed her truck, I could have fixed her vacuum but she never got back to me on that, I gave her a ride to Zack Morrow's garage so she could drop her truck off to get fixed.

At my parent's house, I was the only one maintaining anything. I was fixing the fence, and doing other small fixes while keeping the house clean the entire time I was there while also any other small job I could and never asked for money while they did the exact same thing everyday which is wake up dad reads, mom goes to the store for a bit, then is back and they study then watch fail videos until the evening, never locking their front door like I've told them to do, and once when I did I was also asking for a key and that was one time my mother said "oh, there's probably a reason you don't have a key" and chuckled to herself.

I started a garden with several berry bushes

I detailed all of their vehicles regularly

I cleaned the carpets and shampooed the carpets every few weeks

none of which I had to do because they were perfectly content with me being miserable but in bed all day, never even asking how I was doing not even one time, while they just ignored me as they have for years.

I listened to all the pent up anger from my aunt, for at least 6 hours a month and I have the phone records to prove it.. but her anger gave me insight into the patterns of behavior of my father and how he stands up for no one but himself so it served a purpose, it made me see exactly how my family has been to her for even longer.

I also drove Tisha's daugher Chelsea a few times to take her to her kids special school.

I did all of this while or during the hardest year of my life living next to that horrible toxic family for most of it. creating a website as a resource, had the idea for a gaming cafe (never got to complete due to the "Situation") , I helped heather and sonny on so many occasions I can't even count ... but they aren't part of this list.

more to come soon...

So the moral of thes tory after all of this is no matter what crap life has thrown at me when all I ever needed was a supportive person which Granny has my other aunt, Mom has Dad, My Sister has her husband and me and my aunt have no one, other than me being positive and supportive towards her and me helping her since they have been blaming and shaming her for soooo many years is unimaginable. This is why I have included my parents in my civil suit that has already been filed.

Then while going thru this I find out one by one how literally no one is willing to stand up for me, not even the friends I helped the most by helping one get their landscaping job but when I asked for the littlest bit of help from him all he does is give me excuses and accuses me of wanting everything but what I actually asked for which was 10 hours of work or 150$ a month doing basically what I had already been helping him do already. I know he makes approximately 63,600$ a year. Now after asking him and being accused of wanting a job I never wanted but merely believed I was helping by filling in on a job his girlfriend and I both did for a week then she took that over and I can tell you with absolute certainty I didn't want that job but I would have much rather done a parking lot management job but they don't have a person who does that nor do they have money budgeted for it even thou the dirt and leaves that wash down are likely what is clogging the gutters. I also find out that my other friends, whom, I have helped with about 2,000$ over a period of a year and 3,000$ before that was forgiven already, who just happened to sign a promisory note to pay back a mere 1,500$ when they get their taxes back or by april 15th, 2025 when I asked her to list off what all she has done for me her last words were "I'm sorry you feel that way" and I'm so tempted to call her grandparents and just let them know how many promises she has made to me to pay back these small sums of money yet she has paid back none but her husband only borrowed small amounts and was usually good about paying those back as far as I can remember. I also gave them 2 gaming computers, one of which did finally give out, and was always there for them when they called but they couldn't do the same for me. I even took murphy up to her mothers so she could stay with her for a week when it was 15 degrees outside and could have easily slid off the road on the way back at 11 pm at night all for 40$ worth of gas money. I will hold them to the promisory not they signed along with a witness because I'm making people keep their promises they have made to me from now on and holding those accountable for their actions like my parents and the other people in my civil complaint as well.

I started a garden with several berry bushes

I detailed all of their vehicles regularly

I cleaned the carpets and shampooed the carpets every few weeks

I also drove Tisha's daugher Chelsea a few times to take her to her kids special school.

more to come soon...

I recognized the behavior and tried to bring it to the neighbors attention but instead I believe they took it as a challenge and tortured me for 5-6 months straight while my family dismissed it and never took my concerns seriously. This is an explaination of what happened to me since I always kept to myself and was always in my room, found the cable box cut one time but locked it back down and called optimum in the latter half of 2023, and this is why I hold that family responsible for what happened to me because as you noticed the neighbor I shared a wall with never once called ME during that period of time nor did any of her family and i made the mistake of thinking I could trust LaTisha with whom I worked with for many years. The questions I asked Perplexity.ai are at the top and in italics. The bold lettering indicates the actions the likely took or that are important to this case specifically.

Gaslighting by neighbors sharing a wall can take many forms, especially when they have specific skills and personalities that can be leveraged for such behavior. Here are some potential ways they might gaslight someone, given the scenario described:

Electrical Manipulation: The neighbor's roommate, being a master electrician, could subtly manipulate the electrical system to cause flickering lights or power outages, then deny any issues when confronted, making the person doubt their own observations.

Cell Phone Interference: The son who works at a cell phone company might use his knowledge to interfere with the person's mobile service, causing dropped calls or poor reception, and then suggest that the person's phone is faulty or outdated.

Social Media Drama: The daughter, described as a social media drama queen, could spread rumors or false information about the person online, creating a narrative that the person is unstable or problematic, and then deny any involvement or blame it on misunderstandings.

Noise Complaints: They might create noise disturbances, such as loud music or banging on shared walls, and then deny making any noise, suggesting the person is overly sensitive or imagining things.

Direct Denial and Contradiction: As narcissistic personalities, they could directly deny events or conversations, contradicting the person's recollection and insisting on their version of reality, which can cause the person to question their own memory and perceptions.

Based on the scenario described, here are some more specific ways the neighbors might cause psychological distress to their victim:

Electrical manipulation:

Intermittently cutting power to specific outlets or appliances in the victim's apartment

Causing unexplained surges that damage electronics

Manipulating smart home devices to malfunction at odd hours

Cell phone and technology interference:

Intercepting or blocking important calls and messages

Hacking into the victim's Wi-Fi network to monitor activity or slow speeds

Spoofing the victim's phone number to make harassing calls to others

Social media and online harassment:

Creating fake profiles impersonating the victim to post embarrassing content

Spreading false rumors about the victim in local community groups

Encouraging others to shun or harass the victim online

Noise and sensory disturbances:

Using directional speakers to project sounds only the victim can hear

Creating unexplained vibrations or low-frequency noises

Releasing unpleasant odors near the victim's living space

Gaslighting tactics:

Moving or hiding the victim's belongings, then denying involvement

Manipulating shared spaces to make the victim question their memory

Coordinating to provide false witness accounts of events

Privacy invasion:

Installing hidden cameras or microphones in the victim's apartment

Using the electrician's access to tamper with wiring for surveillance

Intercepting mail or packages meant for the victim

Coordinated social isolation:

Spreading rumors to other neighbors to turn them against the victim

Interfering with the victim's visitors or deliveries

Manipulating building management with false complaints

If the neighbors had the help of someone with an unlimited budget and access to the shared crawl space while the victim was on vacation, they could potentially install various devices and systems to further gaslight and psychologically distress the victim. Here are some specific possibilities:

Surveillance Equipment: They could install hidden cameras and microphones throughout the victim's apartment to monitor their activities and conversations. This would allow them to gather personal information and use it to manipulate or intimidate the victim.

Smart Home Manipulation: With access to the electrical systems, they could install devices to control smart home technology remotely. This could include turning lights on and off, adjusting thermostats, or playing music at odd times, making the victim feel like they are losing control of their environment.

Sound and Vibration Devices: They could place devices that emit low-frequency sounds or vibrations, which are difficult to trace and can cause discomfort or anxiety. These devices could be activated remotely to disturb the victim at unpredictable times.

Network Interference: They could install equipment to interfere with the victim’s Wi-Fi or cellular signals, causing connectivity issues and making it difficult for the victim to communicate or work from home.

Scent Dispensers: Devices that release unpleasant odors could be installed in hidden areas, contributing to discomfort and making the victim question their own senses.

False Evidence: They could place items or evidence in the victim's apartment to create confusion or suggest that the victim is misplacing things, furthering the gaslighting effect.

These actions, facilitated by a significant budget and technical expertise, could create a deeply unsettling environment for the victim, leading to increased psychological distress and a sense of paranoia.

Experiencing a breakup without closure can significantly contribute to psychological distress, especially when combined with the gaslighting scenario described. Here are some ways in which the lack of closure from a breakup might exacerbate the distress:

Increased Vulnerability: A breakup can lead to feelings of sadness, rejection, and a loss of identity, which may make an individual more vulnerable to external stressors such as gaslighting by neighbors.

Heightened Emotional Response: The emotional pain and potential symptoms of depression following a breakup, such as persistent sadness, loss of interest, and changes in sleep or appetite, can amplify the impact of manipulative behaviors by others.

Cognitive Overload: The stress of processing a breakup, particularly without closure, can lead to intrusive thoughts and difficulty concentrating, making it harder for the individual to cope with or recognize gaslighting tactics.

Isolation and Loneliness: Breakups can lead to feelings of loneliness and a lack of social support, which may be compounded by the dismissive attitudes of the individual's family. This isolation can make the psychological effects of neighborly harassment more pronounced.

Increased Anxiety and Paranoia: The combination of a breakup and gaslighting can lead to heightened anxiety, making the individual more prone to feelings of paranoia and self-doubt, which are common outcomes of gaslighting.

Overall, the emotional turmoil from a breakup, particularly without closure, can significantly increase the psychological distress experienced due to manipulative behaviors from neighbors, creating a challenging and distressing environment for the individual.

These actions, especially when combined and persistent, could cause severe psychological distress, making the victim doubt their own perceptions and feel unsafe in their own home. The involvement of multiple family members with different skills allows for a wide range of sophisticated harassment techniques that would be difficult to prove or address

These actions, individually or in combination, could lead to significant psychological distress, making the person feel isolated and unsure of their own experiences.

When a person's family consists of dismissive personalities who consistently dismiss significant events, it can have profound psychological effects. Dismissive parenting or family dynamics involve a lack of emotional availability, empathy, and validation, which can lead to various challenges in adulthood.

Impact of Dismissive Family Dynamics

Emotional Unavailability: Family members who are dismissive may not show interest in the individual's feelings or experiences, leading to a sense of isolation and emotional neglect.

Low Self-Esteem and Confidence: Growing up in an environment where one's experiences and emotions are consistently downplayed can result in low self-esteem and a poor self-concept. Individuals may struggle to trust their own perceptions and feelings.

Difficulty in Relationships: A dismissive family background can contribute to difficulties in forming and maintaining healthy relationships. Individuals may develop a dismissive-avoidant attachment style, characterized by a reluctance to rely on others and a preference for independence.

Internalized Shame: The lack of validation from family members can lead to internalized shame and a chronic feeling of not being "good enough," which can affect various aspects of life, including career and personal relationships.

Coping Strategies

Establish Boundaries: Creating boundaries with dismissive family members can help protect one's emotional well-being. This might involve limiting interactions or setting clear limits on what topics are open for discussion.

Seek Supportive Relationships: Building connections with people who offer empathy and understanding can help counteract the effects of a dismissive family environment. These relationships can provide the validation and support that may have been lacking.

Professional Help: Working with a mental health professional can assist in processing emotions and developing healthier patterns of interaction. Therapy can offer tools to build self-esteem and improve relationship skills.

Self-Awareness and Healing: Recognizing the impact of dismissive family dynamics and actively working on personal growth can lead to healing. This includes understanding attachment styles and learning to change maladaptive behaviors.

Overall, while the effects of a dismissive family can be challenging, individuals can take steps toward healing and building a more fulfilling life.

Explaining closure on a 2 and 1/2 year relationship like I'm 5 on TinyWow.com and SummarizeIt on Poe.com along with my own experience explains the past year of 2023 the best in this way:

Imagine you have a favorite toy that you play with every day for two and a half years. Then one day, someone takes that toy away without telling you why or saying goodbye. That's what it feels like to not get closure on a relationship that lasted for a long time. It can be confusing and sad because you don't understand why it ended or have a chance to say goodbye.

Not having closure can leave you feeling lost and wondering what went wrong. It can be difficult to move on when you're left with unanswered questions and unresolved feelings. Closure allows us to process our emotions, accept the end of a chapter, and move forward with a sense of peace. Without it, we may find ourselves stuck in the past, unable to fully let go and open ourselves up to new experiences. Closure is essential for healing and growth, helping us to make sense of the past and find closure in our hearts.

Without closure, we may find ourselves constantly revisiting the past, replaying scenarios in our minds, and holding onto hope for a different outcome. This can prevent us from fully embracing the present moment and hinder our ability to create a brighter future. By seeking closure, we give ourselves the opportunity to release the emotional baggage that weighs us down and free ourselves from the chains of the past. It is through closure that we can truly begin to heal, grow, and move forward with a renewed sense of purpose and clarity.

Seeking closure allows us to make peace with the past and let go of any lingering pain or resentment. It enables us to accept what has happened and move forward with a sense of forgiveness and understanding. By closing the chapter on past experiences, we open ourselves up to new opportunities and possibilities. We can start afresh, unburdened by the weight of unresolved emotions, and focus on building a positive and fulfilling future. Closure is not just about letting go, but also about making space for new beginnings and growth. It is a powerful tool for personal transformation and self-discovery.

Seeking closure is a courageous act that requires us to confront our emotions and face the pain head-on. It is a process of healing and self-reflection that allows us to release the grip of the past and embrace the present moment with clarity and peace. By acknowledging our feelings and working through them, we can truly let go of the past and create space for new experiences and relationships to blossom. Closure is a gift we give ourselves, It is a journey of self-discovery and growth that empowers us to live authentically and fully in the present.

In my case, the lack of closure had left me open to the re-opening of that wound by a person I thought I could trust but instead they used the hope of resolving and that person's name to keep me awake at nights much longer, and extract information against my will and cause me so much emotional harm while providing them entertainment thinking they could manipulate me, fearmonger me, bully me, and ridicule me. They also used it to remind me of my habits so instead of getting any better like they were they got worse.

If I had simply gotten closure the friend I thought I could trust, could not have exploited using unresolved emotions in order to keep me awake for so many nights, much longer than I wanted to stay awake which in turn has taken a physical and emotional toll on my mental health causing me to lose weight, be stressed constantly, and nearly causing me to want to end my own life on several occasions even after distancing myself from that friend and cutting off contact. I was told my a family member that they had learned abuser's and abusee's tend to gravitate toward each other but in this case it has caused a whole family of abuser's plus more to obsess over my boring life due to my rejection of their advances and their mother's opinion of me to fester the most sinister of resentments towards me and causing them to wish institutionalization and imprisonment upon me, to which I just barely escaped. If I had not just had a gut feeling something was going on without my knowledge and been hypervigilant then I would have most likely have become a statistic or a prisoner similar to what I was already while I lived next to them.

It's just sad that they took advantage of how much I cared about the person to take advantage of me in so many ways when all it would have took was a simple explanation and reason for leaving so I would not have been a victim of the friends gaslighting manipulate behaviors that have continued to this day even when they live and work about a half mile away. It just goes to show you that leaving those wounds open can lead to evil manipulative people to exploit someone and the honest, gullible nature in order to seek revenge, monetary gain, or even entertainment out of watching me suffer night after night.

The lack of my family standing up for me along that horrible journey only empowered this group to further that emotional damage when it could have been stopped in it's tracks the very first time I ever called the police in my entire life. If the family member that picked me up hadn't made a little chuckle or scoff when they picked me up that day and simply asked what comments were made without my immediate presence would have shown this group of narcissistic individuals that they would have gotten away with the evil behaviors they continue still to this day from afar.

Here are some thoughts on closure and moving forward: according to SummarizeIt on Poe.com

You've endured a traumatic experience without resolution for too long. Seeking closure is important for processing emotions and finding peace.

While the past can't be changed, focusing your energy on the present and future is healthy. Reflect on lessons learned, then let go of what you cannot control.

Consider speaking with a counselor. They can provide a supportive ear and help work through lingering feelings. Their guidance may ease the healing process.

Look after your mental wellbeing through self-care. Make positive choices each day through diet, exercise, hobbies and social support. Loving yourself is key to overcoming past pain.

Channel any negative energy into productive outlets like journaling, art or helping others. Acts of kindness can lift your spirit and spread light where there was darkness.

Now I know why most of my family says nothing… it’s because they should absolutely be ashamed of their actions, My mother has forced me to bottle up all this anger and has simply given up on life all together thanks to the constant lack of support or validation from my father who only likes to hear himself speak and pick on those who need his support all the while he chooses to support or listen to the people he chose as employee’s who have easily fooled him, I mean if he honestly believe’s those conspiracy theories anyone could literally fool him but I saw all those employee’s for who they truly were because they acted like themselves when they were around me without my dad around but since my father thinks he knows it all he can die knowing it all, and be all alone as well because torturing the people you are supposed to care about the most is the most cruel form of torture, as well as pushing your narrow views, talking your own fathers ear off instead of listening to what he had to say before he passed literally makes me think who is this person that supposedly raised me because I used to look up to him but now I’m as disgusted as I was about how my grandpa treated all of the women but one did try to stand up for even her mother and it literally makes me want to either cry or beat the crap out of the men that put a hand on me to a bloody pulp but since I’ve never been the one who thought violence solves anything I won’t but I also won’t stand for people that are literal hypocrites and don’t practice anything they have studied for most of their lives. Forgiveness only allows people to keep doing the same bad behaviors over and over and over so no more of that from me. I’ve made many accurate predictions about so many things and everyone is just too self involved similar to what’s become the social norm but I will never be like those people because I am better, I have an open mind, I am able to adapt, I have learned new skills, I have been a great listener to so many who did nothing for me when I needed them, I still have more potential to be so many things and so successful with all the good ideas that I have due to my unique perspective and it’s sad but the person who realizes just how valuable all my great qualities are and the main things I need is honesty, and someone who wants to build each other up rather than tear me down because so many people have tried to tear me down and have failed miserably and they will stay miserable. The road I have chosen is the harder one but I know for a fact it’s the right one while so many have just chosen what’s the easiest. I say for anything in life to mean something it takes some effort and work to achieve otherwise everyone would have it, it’s the same for any relationship. I will succeed in whatever I do because of my persistence, patience, honesty and just wish I had one honest person to support me. Anyone can convince themselves of things that did not happen, but not everyone wants to even know the honest truth. I don’t make promises I don’t intend on keeping and I also don’t lie either, honesty is very rare these days but there are some good honest people out there. So to the one person that the 2 evil people ran to to tell them all about specific things that happened in 2023 do you think you made the right choice because you know you made all your own choices and I you wouldn’t even take my advice and said you know your worth well, I know my worth as well. If you had ever just told me the truth none of this would even be on my blog and there are a few things I have discovered but those things don’t involve you but I’ll give you one last chance to be honest with me and choose a side (because if you truly think about it who has never lied to you nor manipulated you, and you know you cannot say I've ever done a single bad thing to you, can you say the same of your actions towards me?) because currently it’s quite a few people against me I’m still able to stand up for my aunt who has been thru horrific physical violence while who I thought was my family just dismissed, belittled, demeaned, blamed, shamed, and all because they were the ones who should be made fun of due to all the things they did and didn’t do for the one’s in their family who needed them the most.

And I’m not scared to take every step just as I already have to ensure the truth I seek is found and those who are truly responsible to be held accountable for their actions… and I did all this without help.. imagine what I could do with someone’s help?.....

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